Recently I came across an article in IBNLive which goes on to describe 5 types of guys a woman should have in her life. The author symbolizes Draupadi as the lucky one having 5 husbands and goes on project the need for current woman to have five different types of men to satisfy five different needs. Relevance of such a post in Indian context is questionable; however dark the truth may be behind curtains.
Recently I also watched – Pyar ka Punchnama. Amazing movie I must say where the director has truly captured what really goes on in relationships – existing and potential ones. The movie does exaggerate a bit at points but there are examples in real life that surpass those exaggerations too!
Well, call it a retaliation or inspiration from the movie; I have captured 5 types of girls that each guy should stay away from if he wants not be hurt. As you can guess, this is the guy side of story – you may most certainly go on to say that the same applies to men also: An argument that is most old and repetitively used.
1. The one who is “just good friend”
You can relate this character with Charu of Pyar ka Punchnama. Such a girl will try to make you your best friend. Such a girl will care about you at the right moments, tell you her secrets and always add a line – “I have not even told this to my best friend.” Being a guy you would continue to be charmed by her spirits and pamper her all the way through even if to be a friend. She expects and you will clean up all the mess and mistakes (popularly known as “raita failana” in hindi) that she commits. It may also happen the she already has a boyfriend and just needs you for the emotional support – a shoulder to cry on; somebody to make her feel good when she is ‘not in the right mood’. At this point she might let you be a little more intimate than usual (letting you feel loved and feelings reciprocated) only to set things straight right in the face the very next morning. Despite all this slowly and steadily, you will start having feelings for her and when you express it – will come the classic statement – “We are just good friends”. Best part is she will give all sorts of mixed signals and yet ridicule you and mock you if you try to come close.
2. The confused one
You can relate this character with Ria of Pyar ka Punchnama. Such a girl is the one who has just gotten out of a relationship or even worse – has not been able to forget her ex-boyfriend till date irrespective of the timespan. You may fall just at the wrong place and time to be used like a rebound. Initially things will go great as these relationships start with rebound sex. But then comparisons will creep in. She will constantly argue with you over issues and compare you with her previous boyfriend. She will promise to forget her ex and ask more time – the next day you will see her more engrossed with those memories. Being a good guy and still in her charms you will try to console her and try your best to be the only man in her life until one day she will tell you to give her space and don’t interfere in her personal life. The nail in the coffin would be her getting tattooed with her ex’s name. <here comes the exaggeration but who knows )
3. The one who dominates
You can relate this character with Neha of Pyar ka Punchnama. Such a girl is one who would like to dominate your life to every possible extent. She will take up every space that you have & make you paranoid – yet you will keep falling for her. She will change your living style, ask you to get better clothes that she likes, change the setup of your house even though you might not live together, ask you to be with her everywhere, give up your social life for her, emotionally blackmail you for anything that is not to her liking, make you feel guilty about all the pleasures you have without her – in short be her little pet. At times you will get frustrated but then she would have all the weapons that make men weak and use them at the right time.
4. The over obsessed career woman
Most easy to spot, you can relate this character to Gungun of Dil to Bachcha hai ji. Best thing about such a girl is that she doesn’t hesitate in telling you that she is career oriented. Given her ambitious nature, she is upfront about it. I don’t say that don’t be with a career woman – in-fact a career woman is much more sensible - I personally believe but I use the word “obsessed” here. The obsessed kind will chose career over love even though she knows she will regret it later. She will treat you as the most important second priority. She will expect you to understand everything – you will – but men are by nature possessive – and this understanding will find its cracks someday.
5. The one who “needs” you
This is the most secretive woman. She has needs – than can be physical or emotional. And she would go to any extent to find a guy who satisfies those needs. Obviously everything would be discreet. You can relate her to Anushka of Dil to Bachcha hai ji. Being felt “needed” is always a good feeling and hence men fall easily in this trap. She will use you as an emotional support but shrug you off when you get too personal. She will want you in bed and expect you to be amazingly good yet if you get a little sentimental she will run off. She will come back to you even after a fight because she knows she can talk to you and you will be discrete. She needs you for all the things she cannot go anywhere else.
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The views expressed are personal to those of the author.