Recently I came across an article in IBNLive which goes on to describe 5 types of guys a woman should have in her life. The author symbolizes Draupadi as the lucky one having 5 husbands and goes on project the need for current woman to have five different types of men to satisfy five different needs. Relevance of such a post in Indian context is questionable; however dark the truth may be behind curtains.
Recently I also watched – Pyar ka Punchnama. Amazing movie I must say where the director has truly captured what really goes on in relationships – existing and potential ones. The movie does exaggerate a bit at points but there are examples in real life that surpass those exaggerations too!
Well, call it a retaliation or inspiration from the movie; I have captured 5 types of girls that each guy should stay away from if he wants not be hurt. As you can guess, this is the guy side of story – you may most certainly go on to say that the same applies to men also: An argument that is most old and repetitively used.
1. The one who is “just good friend”
You can relate this character with Charu of Pyar ka Punchnama. Such a girl will try to make you your best friend. Such a girl will care about you at the right moments, tell you her secrets and always add a line – “I have not even told this to my best friend.” Being a guy you would continue to be charmed by her spirits and pamper her all the way through even if to be a friend. She expects and you will clean up all the mess and mistakes (popularly known as “raita failana” in hindi) that she commits. It may also happen the she already has a boyfriend and just needs you for the emotional support – a shoulder to cry on; somebody to make her feel good when she is ‘not in the right mood’. At this point she might let you be a little more intimate than usual (letting you feel loved and feelings reciprocated) only to set things straight right in the face the very next morning. Despite all this slowly and steadily, you will start having feelings for her and when you express it – will come the classic statement – “We are just good friends”. Best part is she will give all sorts of mixed signals and yet ridicule you and mock you if you try to come close.
2. The confused one
You can relate this character with Ria of Pyar ka Punchnama. Such a girl is the one who has just gotten out of a relationship or even worse – has not been able to forget her ex-boyfriend till date irrespective of the timespan. You may fall just at the wrong place and time to be used like a rebound. Initially things will go great as these relationships start with rebound sex. But then comparisons will creep in. She will constantly argue with you over issues and compare you with her previous boyfriend. She will promise to forget her ex and ask more time – the next day you will see her more engrossed with those memories. Being a good guy and still in her charms you will try to console her and try your best to be the only man in her life until one day she will tell you to give her space and don’t interfere in her personal life. The nail in the coffin would be her getting tattooed with her ex’s name. <here comes the exaggeration but who knows
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3. The one who dominates
You can relate this character with Neha of Pyar ka Punchnama. Such a girl is one who would like to dominate your life to every possible extent. She will take up every space that you have & make you paranoid – yet you will keep falling for her. She will change your living style, ask you to get better clothes that she likes, change the setup of your house even though you might not live together, ask you to be with her everywhere, give up your social life for her, emotionally blackmail you for anything that is not to her liking, make you feel guilty about all the pleasures you have without her – in short be her little pet. At times you will get frustrated but then she would have all the weapons that make men weak and use them at the right time.
4. The over obsessed career woman
Most easy to spot, you can relate this character to Gungun of Dil to Bachcha hai ji. Best thing about such a girl is that she doesn’t hesitate in telling you that she is career oriented. Given her ambitious nature, she is upfront about it. I don’t say that don’t be with a career woman – in-fact a career woman is much more sensible - I personally believe but I use the word “obsessed” here. The obsessed kind will chose career over love even though she knows she will regret it later. She will treat you as the most important second priority. She will expect you to understand everything – you will – but men are by nature possessive – and this understanding will find its cracks someday.
5. The one who “needs” you
This is the most secretive woman. She has needs – than can be physical or emotional. And she would go to any extent to find a guy who satisfies those needs. Obviously everything would be discreet. You can relate her to Anushka of Dil to Bachcha hai ji. Being felt “needed” is always a good feeling and hence men fall easily in this trap. She will use you as an emotional support but shrug you off when you get too personal. She will want you in bed and expect you to be amazingly good yet if you get a little sentimental she will run off. She will come back to you even after a fight because she knows she can talk to you and you will be discrete. She needs you for all the things she cannot go anywhere else.
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The views expressed are personal to those of the author.













LOL…. Are you going to expose the guys next?
http://www.kickstarter.com/projects/1757720914/lets-fix-love
then guys will be left with guys only…lol
I also loved ds flick a lot
being a girl ….but then wht kinda of girl 1 shud go for according to u ..
@michelle – there are umpteen posts from girls doing that – i don’t need to get my hands dirty
@nabz – really ? is it that hard to find a a girl who is true to herself and to the guy ? a girl who just loves the guy for who he is without asking for any changes/modifications/submissions ?
@pallavi – well..every person has their own liking for what they desire in their partner.. but i believe the essential trait is atleast trust and honest to ownself and to the other person. Wanting the partner as he is – no changes/modifications//submissions required ! Applies to both the sides – i must add. Guess that has become a rare thing to find.
Glad that you liked the movie ! I enjoyed it too
Well, I also liked the movie, and was sympathetic for all the three guys.. But then dont get me wrong, as per ur post it would be indeed very difficult for a guy to find a girl of her dreams.. Coz now-a-days girls are career oriented, at times possessive also, but there’s got to be a balance of all these traits.. I wish u all d best if u still searching for one..
DIPLOMATIC
@ aanchal – sympathy was not what the movie was aiming at getting from the girls and I would urge you to read the post again…. i like career oriented girls – adore them, what i am cautioning against is “career obsessed” and the same applies for men also. Possessiveness is good – as I have said its the underlying trait of a man, but there is a difference between possessiveness and dominance – don’t you agree?
And yes you said it right – a fine balance, a perfect mix of all in the true and honest sense is appreciated and most sought after – my search is for that
@pallavi feminist – you didn’t need to add the suffix
…i get the point just like that
Well, Gaurav I agree girls are career oriented. But you are wrong, it is not about obsession. If a girl chooses career over love, she knows what keeps her more happy and what more she wants from life.
I agree with Pallavi Feminist, this one particularly is way too diplomatic. lol
It is all about honesty and the accepting each other the way they are. Guys also ask girls to change
In the end it is all about being happy with each other and not stereotyped
Cheers.
Megha Sarin
http://www.meghasarin.blogspot.com
@megha – really megha ? do you think its right to think of career over love and life ? Its not right for both guys and girls. Being a guy I can say that I particularly think about career at this point of life when I am single so that I can have a great life with my love. What do you want to work for? Isn’t is for getting that cherished happiness with your loved ones.
And yes I do agree it is all about accepting the way each other is. that is not choosing over, its about loving and caring so much to accommodate – and it is desired from both sides. Don’t you agree ?
Well ya It is right
It is your personal choice and one should know what they want more at the present. It is not thinking about future. It is all about doing and choosing thing what keeps your more happy and content.
I agree with love and caring. So don’t give stereotyped opinion about girls asking guys to change.
At the end of it, equation has to be same from both the sides, Period.
And I am trying to balance the equation from the guy’s side. the girl’s side was pretty much covered in the post I mentioned at start of blog. Here it is http://ibnlive.in.com/blogs/madhuribanerjee/2956/62470/the-5-guys-every-woman-should-have.html
Funny thing…guy’s are accused of stereotyping where as it is perfectly ok if a girl does it.
i think you’re seeing this from just one perspective. the movie “pyaar ka punchnama” is made BY the guys, FOR the guys. i think you should widen your horizons and write an article on this topics from all perspectives.
*topic
i would like to read what you have to say about five types of girls guys would like to be in a relationship with
@Diksha – Agree ! The movie is BY and FOR the guys. Thought midst all the blogs by girls doing male bashing, I’ll taken up the baton and present the other side of the coin
Haha..If I write on the topic you suggested then everybody knows and the mystery vanishes :p .. would be interesting to have a discussion over it …what say?
solve the mystery for everyone then!
@Diksha – feels like solving the mystery to save the world ! LoL. Will definitely try sometime.
Well Man, If you avoid all these 5 types, you will die unmarried.
hav seen all d 5 types..but is ter any gal left??i belivt tat a guy gets hurt after a long term relationship…he finds it hard to move on…but gals..they simply can forget anything…and can mov on…is this common 4 all gals..both d girls i loved had moved on,,,i still cant…;(